When you have kids they become the center of your world. You focus so much on what they need, that you may find yourself neglecting other aspects of your life. The relationship is one of the most common things to be put on what seems like a permanent hiatus. Sure you sleep in the same bed, and you love each other very much, but you just don’t get that intimacy anymore. You’re both so tired by the end of the day that settling into bed is really the only thing on your mind. You’re missing that spark, and you want it back!
Solidify Your Relationship
Go on New Adventures
I know, I know it’s hard to get a babysitter sometimes. If you can’t find a babysitter you can always go on a new adventure in your living room. Try a new board game together, cuddle and watch a movie that you both enjoy, or even cook something fantastic together. Do something new, or at least something that you haven’t done together in a long time.
Grunting good night at each other as you flop into bed at the end of the night is not communicating. Spend some time at the end of every day talking about things that are important to each of you. Making sure that you have open lines of communication is a very big aspect of feeling connected to each other.
Have you noticed that your significant other has been complaining about a sore back? Why not run them a hot bath to soaked in at the end of the day? There are many things that you can do that are thoughtful to help your partner and make them feel valued.
Let it Go
If the house isn’t perfectly cleaned on a Friday night, don’t spend the entire evening washing dishes. Let it go for the night and spend time with your partner. If that isn’t an option, clean together! Teamwork is a great way to get things done and have time leftover after to spend together. It can also really help to solidify your relationship.
Your relationship doesn’t have to fall flat after kids. In fact, it can get stronger than it was before as long as you both work at it.