Parenting can make you feel like a broken record. Repeating yourself over and over again to no avail. “Where are your shoes?”, “Where ARE your shoes?”, “Where ARE YOUR SHOOOOOES?” It can be incredibly frustrating to feel as though you are consistently talking to the wall. Who wants to have to repeat themselves until they feel as though raising their voice is the only way to get someone to pay attention to them? It can seem infuriating but there are solutions that can help keep both you and your children happy.
Get your kids to listen to you without having to raise your voice, repeat yourself a kajillion times, or just start talking to the wall by ensuring that you are communicating effectively with them.
How to Communicate Effectively with Your Children
Do NOT Repeat Yourself
You may think that by repeating yourself, you are helping the situation but you aren’t. In fact, you are actually making it worse. If you don’t have your child’s attention when you start talking, then there is no point in repeating yourself, because they aren’t listening. Repeating yourself just makes it sound like you are nagging.
Get Their Attention First
Make sure you have your Children’s attention before you start talking. Get down to their level and make eye contact with them so that they know you require their attention. Start talking once they have returned your eye contact.
Keep It Simple
It can be so easy to go off on a tangent when speaking with your Children. Use as little words as possible when requesting something from your Children and ensure that they confirm that they have heard you.
Listen to Them
You can’t expect your children to listen to you if you seemingly ignore them. When they are speaking to you, give them your full attention. Model the way you want communication in your family to be, and they will follow suit.
Don’t feel like a broken record anymore, because it’s not working anyways. Instead, make sure you get your children’s attention and keep your instructions simple. You will be well on your way to Communicating with your Children in a much more effective way, as soon as you make some changes.