So all my planning and hoping for the perfect home birth for my very last little came to a full stop when he decided that being a Virgo was not what he wanted. And so my newest Leo joins our clan, born early at 35 weeks weighing 5 pounds 10 ounces and showing the rest of his siblings that he plans on making his mark in the family. Toby Spencer was quick to enter with the help of my midwife Jenna and Doula Ruth who never gave up on me even when I gave up on me.
This was my first labour and delivery with no pain medication. I have never done it without an epidural but I will tell you I’ve never felt better after a birth than I do now. It was a very amazing experience for me so I will start at the beginning.
Saturday, August 20th I really started feeling a little blah. I was tired, sore and baby was super active. My day started with an increase of Braxton hicks contractions that were just annoying me and I was really trying to get some things done around the house as I was just starting to get in my nesting phase where I needed to clean all the things. As the day progressed, the Braxton hicks became real contractions but they didn’t bother me much and I was able to continue my day and decided that it didn’t warrant a midwife call. I had a warm bath and went to bed as they stopped and I was able to sleep. I woke up Sunday and the same thing happened. They were all over the place, never got consistent but I did send a text to my doula to ask her opinion and she told me to page my midwife. I paged and when she called me back she said it sounded like I may have irritable uterus and to stay hydrated, eat and have a warm bath and if they didn’t go away to page her again. Once again, they went away and I was able to sleep.
Monday afternoon was a completely different story. My husband left for work at 1 p.m. and from about noon I was getting contractions still but again nothing I thought too much about as they weren’t anything like my other contractions and I also thought it may just be a lead up to the real thing as I was only 35 weeks and this baby couldn’t come yet. However, they were 15 minutes apart consistently and although the pain was actually not all that bad, I decided it deserved another page to the midwife. Jenna who I had seen for most of my prenatal care, decided that my contractions and the fact that I have had 4 babies already warranted a trip to the hospital to be assessed. If I have been another week and a half later, she would have come to assess me at home but our little guy had other plans.
I got to the hospital at 5 p.m. and Jenna met us around 5:15. I had stopped having contractions as well so I figured it was just a fluke. We got into an assessment room and she hooked me up to the monitors and did a check for dilation. I knew from the look on her face when she was checking that we were not going home. I was 4cm dilated and my bag of waters was bulging and she could feel his head as I was already +2 station. I wasn’t ready for him to come and I didn’t even have a bag packed for me or him to bring to the hospital. I wasn’t planning on delivering at a hospital, I was supposed to have this little guy at home with the whole family a part of it. Little man had his own agenda. I was completely unprepared, needed to have IV antibiotics because I didn’t have my group B strep test done yet (my appointment was the following day) and because this little guy was barely 35 weeks.
2 hours after the antibiotics were in, I asked my midwife to break my water. I had waited the 2 hour time frame for the antibiotics to be in and I was just ready to have our son. When she checked me I was still only 4cm which was fine and she went ahead and broke my water. Well, I went from comfortable and talking through my contractions to pretty much swearing and asking for pain medication. I am so thankful for both my doula, Ruth and for my midwife Jenna who talked me through the 3 really awful contractions I had just before Toby entered the world. The total time from water breaking to him being born, 16 minutes. I think I was just scared about not knowing what to expect because at this point, I had always had an epidural and honestly I got through the pain and after he was born, I felt amazing. It was the most amazing birth experience I have ever had and I only wish that I had done the same with my previous pregnancies.
Toby Spencer was born at 9:45 p.m. and weighed 5lbs 10oz and although we had to spend 3 days in the NICU, he is breastfeeding well and as of September 3rd, weighs 6lbs 3oz. He is a really good baby although he doesn’t like to be put down and would rather be skin to skin always. I am so thankful that our rainbow is here and he is healthy after such an awful year last year. His birth marks the final baby growing in my womb and although I feel like I did get a little jipped on the length of my pregnancy and not getting my home birth, I am only grateful that we are blessed to have him in our life and that he is healthy and thriving.
Finally, I want to thank Ruth, my doula from Bebo Mia for being there when I needed her most although we never really got the full experience since I had him so early, I am glad that I had her there when it counted most. She is full of information and was only a text away when I needed an opinion. If you are looking for a doula, check out Bebo Mia and Ruth.