This was originally posted last year but it is just as relevant now as it was then.
You all know if you have been reading my blog, that my divorce is still pretty new. You also know from reading my blog it has been 4 years this Christmas since our separation and I have learned a few things since. I wrote the following for DivorcedMoms.com:
Christmas has always been and will always be my favorite time of year. I love everything about Christmas, the lights, the songs, decorating the tree and just spending time with family. The first Christmas after my separation was tough as, unfortunately, our marriage fell apart just days before Christmas in 2010. It was hard on my kids, myself and my ex and figuring out the logistics of it all was not so amicable.
Fortunately, those awkward, unfriendly times are behind us as we head into the fourth year post mess, and it has gotten easier with each passing year. It was never really difficult for me as I was the one who wanted the separation and divorce, but for the kids and my ex it was tough.
This year will be the first year since our split that I won’t have the kids for Christmas dinner on Christmas Day but I am okay with that as we both deserve to spend time with the kids and I will have them Christmas eve and Christmas morning. One thing I have learned over the past 4 years is that whatever our differences or beliefs about one another are, they don’t matter in comparison to what the children deserve.
They didn’t choose us for parents and they sure as heck didn’t ask for the divorce, so we need to be sympathetic to them and realize that spending time with both of their parents and not feeling guilty about it should always remain our number one priority. So this year, it is his turn to enjoy them for Christmas dinner and even though it is different than what they are used to, it will be nice for them to be with their dad.
So here are 5 tips from my house to yours that hopefully will help you deal with the festive season and have the kids come out on top:
You can read the rest of the article about dealing with the holidays after divorce, here.