Here’s the thing, I love the concept of Valentine’s Day, but I don’t like the commercialization of it. I don’t think that the price of roses should increase by 30$ or that chocolate should become a commodity. It’s a day like any other and I celebrate the love I have for my husband, for my kids and for my family everyday. Now I am not going to sit here and lie and tell you that when my hubby and I first started our relationship, while he was still back in England, that I didn’t appreciate the really cute thing that he did for the first Valentine’s Day we had. We hadn’t even met yet and about a month before, I received a package and it contained my very favourite perfume that he had sent to my house. About a week before a gorgeous dozen red roses arrived at my door, although there were only 11 real roses and 1 fake rose, with a note that read “I will love you until the last rose dies”. I will tell you that I cried at the beautiful note as the statement it made was very clear. He loved me and wanted to make sure that I knew it. How do you love someone you have never met? Honestly I am not even sure, but it happened. For both of us.
Valentine’s Day came, and the most beautiful dozen purple (my favourite colour) roses came to my house with another beautiful note. He did send a card as well but to this day (4 years later) I have still never received it. This was pretty much all that has happened for Valentine’s Day since. I loved that he did all these things for me before he came here. They were beautiful and lovely and romantic. The difference now, is that he does so much more for me everyday than any of these things could possibly do.
Here’s what I mean. He came all the way from England to be with me, knowing that I had 3 children from my previous marriage, knowing that we would have a few more struggles than some with the addition of an ex and co-parenting, knowing that my kids could have totally rejected him in their life (which thankfully has never happened and you can see the love they have for each other) and he left everyone and everything he knew to come to a new country. When he is home, he is here, with us, completely plugged in. He helps with the children (dirty diapers included), he does laundry and he helps clean up the house. We really do work as a team and although most times it is never 50/50, neither of us complains or gets upset but work together to get what needs to get done, done. I spend everyday thanking him for that choice, showing him how important he is to all of us, showing him I love him with the little things I do and he shows me in the little things he does.
Maybe it’s because I have already been through marriage once and failed at it miserably, maybe it’s because in him, I have truly found someone who really does complete me. I can say that in 4 years we have barely fought, we communicate so much better than I ever did the first time and most importantly we don’t take each other for granted. So even if this Valentine’s Day comes without a word said about it, I will know and so will he that we love each other to the moon and back and there is not a single rose, box of chocolates or overpriced card that can say that quite the way we do everyday.
Do you celebrate Valentine’s Day? What are your thoughts on the commercialization?