4 kids in and I am just starting to feel like I have some idea of what I am doing as a parent, but everyday even now, I learn something new. Listening to Alyson Schafer the other day at Walmart made me feel like maybe I don’t know as much as I had thought and that I still have lots to learn. Although I feel like this now and I have been through 4 babies, it is nothing compared to how I felt when I had my first.
The overwhelming parenting advice from those closest to you (including mom and grandma) that you just couldn’t comprehend or even sometimes understand as you hadn’t even had your little one yet. Books and pamphlets full of baby and parenting advice, tips and tricks and still feeling like you knew nothing. I think looking back at all of things that I didn’t know I think I could probably think of the one thing I wish I had asked before I had baby.
I am a huge advocate of breastfeeding. I would never condemn a women in any way ever who was unable or even chose not to as I believe breastfeeding is a personal decision that a mom makes or something that not all women are able to do easily. I was even more beside myself when my little girl had to spend her first 48 hours in the NICU because she was having trouble breathing. It was caused by the suction they did to get the mucus from her nose and it caused swelling. It was easily taken care of with a medication to bring down the swelling and we were on our way home. I wish I would have asked questions about breastfeeding before I left the hospital. I think the one thing I never thought to ask was “Will my breasts hurt when I breastfeed?” The answer my friends is a resounding yes. If you don’t have your latch right, it will hurt. When your milk comes in and you become engorged, it will hurt. I remember they were so tender those first weeks after I had her that even a shower hurt.
Now before any of you new moms to be start panicking, relax. It doesn’t last long and eventually it will settle down once your body regulates to baby’s needs. I do suggest that if you are having issues or that you feel that you could use help, please ask. Stuff the mommy guilt away (trust me I know this feeling even now) and ask for help. There are tons of resources out there and even the Walmart Canada website has a baby resource centre you can access.
So how would it be to go shopping at Walmart and have experts on hand at a store to answer all of your questions? Well if you stop by these Walmart Canada locations at Brampton North Supercentre (50 Quarry Edge Dr.) and the Walmart Brampton East Supercentre (30 Coventry Rd) on Saturday, January 24, they will have doulas on hand to answer all your baby questions. Visit the #LetsTalkBaby kiosk in the stores to have all those burning questions answered by some knowledgeable baby experts!