A few weeks ago we had some stuff to deal with but I was super busy and didn’t have a chance to write about it, but here I am now. My oldest came home from school after finding out whether or not all her hard work had allowed her a coveted spot on the girls field hockey team at her school only to break into tears when telling me she hadn’t made the team. It was all I could do not to cry with her as I knew that she had really given her all at the 4 tryouts.
I also tried to tell her that there will be other things that she will succeed at getting. It didn’t work, all of my efforts honestly fell on deaf ears. She wasn’t trying to ignore my advice, she was just truly heartbroken and feeling defeated. I know that she truly tried her very best but I also know that at the end of the day, the school is going to choose their absolute best players as they will be playing against other teams. What I don’t agree with, is choosing other children for the team who couldn’t even be bothered to show up for all of the tryouts. I feel that being part of a team means exactly that, being part of a team. If they couldn’t be bothered to show up for all the tryouts, they should not have been put on the team.
I have told Jocelyn that she is amazing at so many things and that she can (and hopefully will) continue to try out for anything she would like to try. I know that the first time you really put yourself out there and don’t succeed it can be very deflating but it is also a lesson. A lesson in humility and true sportsmanship (in this case) is really what she got out of it. I also know that she will take this and become a stronger person for it but she will have to bring herself back up which I know that my daughter is totally capable of doing. I know that she already has the next thing she wants to do in mind and I am hopeful that she will succeed but if she doesn’t, we will build her back up again, because as her mother that is what I do.
Have you had to deal with your child’s disappointment? What did you do to make it easier for them?