My daughter has started middle school this year and with it brings an new set of challenges and a time of discussion. I’m not talking about the birds and the bees but something more simple but also life changing. It’s what I call the “you are beautiful no matter what” talk. It’s unfortunate that my little girl is growing up in a world that judges beauty so horribly wrong.
My beautiful, flamboyant daughter, at 10 years old, is already worried about her body and whether or not she is beautiful. How on earth did it get so bad that my little girl is getting on the scale and deciding whether or not she is beautiful based on the numbers that appear? Or comparing herself to other girls who are built differently? She does this because, as a society, we tell her she must. She must be thin, she must dress a certain way, she must look like the supermodel wearing her favourite brand of clothing.
Well no more! As her mother, as a woman who has felt this over the years, I have the power to help her, to help many. We are their first “supermodel” and I take this role very seriously. No more will she hear me say “I’m fat” or “I am not feeling very beautiful”.
I sat with her one night as she refused to eat, telling me she wasn’t hungry when I knew that she was. I put my hands on her face and I cried. I cried with her because she thinks she is fat and not beautiful because she is bigger than most of her friends. She is 5 feet tall, wears a size 7 1/2 shoe, she is growing and changing into a beautiful woman. She is smart, sassy and funny. I told her that she can be anything she wants to be and it has nothing to do with her body or what she looks like. I also told her that someday when she meets a man he has to love her for who she is and if he doesn’t then he wasn’t worth giving her heart to anyway. A real man will not love her for what she looks like but for her heart which is the most beautiful thing she possesses.
So after all of this I can say that I am super excited to be working with Dove Canada and the Yummy Mummy Club on their new campaign to promote self-esteem with Mom & Daughter Self-Esteem Workshops as it is most definitely near and dear to my heart.
Head over and read some great articles and ways to help boost self-esteem in your daughter below:
- 5 Self-Esteem Conversations You Need To Have With Your Girl
- Sign-Up For A Free Mom and Daughter Self-Esteem Workshop
- Tools To Help You Talk About Self-Esteem With Your Daughter
- Why I Still Think I’m Beautiful Despite My Age
Sign up for the workshops. I will guarantee there is nothing more important for you and your daughter to do together that will have a bigger impact!
I am beautiful and I love me and I hope that I can help her to say the same. I am not exactly supermodel material, but I am a mother, a wife and a women whose body has grown 4 lives. I wear my silver streaks and muffin top with pride and joy. I am special and beautiful. Could I lose a few pounds? Absolutely, but does it define me? NO! These are the ideals I will teach her. WE are NOT defined by our bodies, our shape, the numbers on a scale or by what others believe we should be. WE are wonderfully beautiful in our own skin and strong empowered women just the way we are.
Although this may be a sponsored post, I write it from the heart and genuinely feel that this is so important for all our girls. Let’s empower them to just be themselves and love who they are.